My Advice Thread for Newbies

Im posting this thread for newer members having GT problems. I hope senior users wouldnt find this thread a waste of bandwith or a reposting of useless already told 100 times advice. Im going to tell and explain everything in details so nothings messy or mixed up and i hope it will help some people with understanding difficulties.So to newer members here , theses are are my reason for this post

1 - I respect this forum alot because iv been through all the GT sh_ts and the horrible side effect of it, and this very forum and the members in it really helped me alot. Eventho i only share 1 F*ed up story of mine , i spend most of my time looking for advice , words of courage , hope and some lights to my darkness on reading other people's problem and the advices given by members here, thus trying to compare and relate to what my problem was and seeking the advice really seriously.

2 - Ive been busy lately and didnt get the chance to go online because i was in thailand since 3 months ago to do some stuffs(not visit my poo ying -,-) and after i went online this morning , i read a few sad stories from you newer members here and it really really remainds me of myself Tongue

, and i kinda laughed about it cause that was me not long ago! and you newer members here need some help.

3 - Im a psychologist with a degree in psychology from MDIS and i spend few years studying the human mind, body language and best of all, the human eyes

. im not trying to "promote" myself in a way or so , but im gonna use psychology, Reverse-psychology and of cause some common sense and logic to fight the facts that these Thai girl's magic charm , power or what-so-ever are not the cause of our F*ed up feelings but our mind and thinking itself.

4 - Im a mixed thai , and i grew up in thailand too so i understand the thai's way of life, cultures and characters. Its part of my life

Im going to use the word Pray(for u who tio GTed) and Predator(for the "evil" thai girls that GTed u). First of all im gonna list down the Facts of you prays , and the facts of them predators , then ill share some advice that helped me . If your already reading till here,thanks for taking interest not for this post, but for helping yourself. Please go on cause im not talking crap out of boredom and it will be a big waste if u turn back.

THE FACTS

Prays
1 - Man tends to be lonely and will seek for companionship by nature. Without a friend(or girlfriend) , we tend to have no meaning in life and feel lonely. Why we fall so easily on thai girls? Answer - Thai girls are very friendly , beautiful , s_xy and attractive by nature. Talking about looks, local ladys looks "normal" or rather "typical" cause we sees thousands of them in our daily life while thai girls look one of a kind beautiful and hot cause we only see them in thai discos and the fact that they are thai (world's 2nd rated most beautiful girls) . Try putting yourself in a 3rd world country with the ugliest girls ever for 20 years. When the first day u step into singapore again , trust me.. even the auntie selling chicken rice would look very preety. Get what i mean? after being in thailand for 3 months myself , i tend to find them very annoying and look annoying -,- and no i wasnt looking at a bapok..

2 - Attitude wise .. Thai people are very friendly and calm by nature while local girls(or majority of them) are shy , rude , fussy , act high class and dont appreciate what they have but instead asking for more(greedy). Always play hard to get and when we give up, they call us idiots for giving them false hope. To locals,being friendly or worst, just smiling seems "flirty or bitchy" to them but to the Thais, its their way of life and the way of being Friendly!. That is why they seem very 'one-in-a-million' to us. If all locals were to behave like thai girls, thai disco will be another boring typical hangouts for loners too.

3 - Theres a saying , "boys will always be boys" . " cant live without girls , cant live with one neither " . . I know it really hurt ALOT when your Pooying leaves you cause u love her alot. But think logic , after spending money and time on her and she just leave u like that, ull feel very bad rite? try imagining this > after spending alot of money and time on her.. u get to screw her alot of times till u sian liao and till ur little bro cant even wake up seeing her cause he also sian liao.. then one day she suddenly leave you .. u wouldnt feel that bad rite cause uv done ur job as "guys" mah? the only bad feeling ull feel are misses and the love towards her.. other then that like her sweet face , s_xy body and smell .. that part you've been thru enough .. as i said " boys will always be boys " . for those REALLY into love and serious 100% respect relationship(which i dont think some of u would) .. ignor this Tongue

Predators
1 - The same old lines.. Thai girls are here to make some money ONLY and out of 100% of them who come here, i would say only 2% would look for TRUE love cause maybe they live in a poor village with ugly fisher mans ? What about the 98%? haha.. yea they look for love to. Temperory love

. Being a foreign girl , with no source of entertainment(except their hp) in a foreign country with no where to go or no opposit s_x to talk and be close to , of cause they will find one. and heres the worst part > instead of being their "temperory" boyfriend , your also their customer , source or LD target , free meals , transport(if your driving) , ATM (when it comes to shopping) and money sender -,-. FYI guys , these GROS and singer earn alot more then we average singaporean earns. we need at least 2k a month to survive a normal not-so luxarious life here , but they earn at least 3k+ PLUS the money u send back to them and the little payments like food and so on would be a big payoff.. and after those money were to convert into thai bath .. they as rich as a ang mor staying in a banglow . . dont believe their bullsh_t sad grandmother stories of poor life cause they can give 101 excuses , reasons and lies to convince you just for 3 shots of LDs.

2 - About the not asking/expecting for LDs, Gifts , Dates and dinners.. These are reverse psychology. When you offers them to buy LDs , knowing that the chances 90% that u would buy for them , they will act as if they dont want BEACUSE > They are trying to make it look like YOU'RE the one who wanted to buy and they so called "love" you not for your money. They will flirt , hug or kiss and pretend you but WONT ask you for LDs or anything but instead Mentally and psychologically make u do it. And u wana know why? >> cause 1 day if they were to ask for a break , rejects ur offer of sleeping with her or decline staying with u , u cant say "walau! i buy for u LD, spend alot of money on you , this is how u love me" .. they will just say "i didnt ask for it na , you want na i no ask. u butterly!" dragon fly house fly all come out.. correct? for those who agrees . . these are the powers of mind tricks

3 - Thai girls by nature, are very and i mean, VERY loyal to their love ones and husband in their country.. the average number of woman in the thai population are WAYy higher then the mans. When a woman finds herself a man, she tends to be very loyal to him cause a simple distract of attention from the man , and hes gone with another woman, thus making the "loyal" ones worth gold . if u've seen the show "Nang Nak" or "Ghost Of Mae Nak" .. is a story of a loyal woman ghost who dies when her husban was away and came back to him (i cant remember much) .. but the moral of the story is basically about the true love and loyalty of this lady Mae Nak towards her husban. and f.y.i , its based on a true story, its one of thailand's legend and the ghost of Mae Nak is still feared among the thai society till now.. Some even worshipped the Mae Nak's idol and made it their "god" for a loyal husban :S
Moral of the story : Most of the girls who come and work her most probaly would already have a husban or a boyfriend / lover back in their homeland. the fact that they are homesick and their hearts darken missing their love ones back there , YOU are just a temperory "heart cure" or "distraction" to keep their minds away on whats on their homeland..and when they are back in their country , they'll tell their bf/hubby that they worked like hell in singapore and did not talk to anyone < so enjoy it while it last Tongue

4 - We always think thai girls who works here as GROs and singers are poor and came from a poor family background, but surprisingly , most of them which iv known are actually as young as 18 , here on school holidays to pay off their schools , some are even university and taking their degree.. some ARE NOT even GROs working in TDs..they just hang around there entertaining random guys for free drinks and if they are lucky, some cash..believe it or not..some of them even speak english very well but act dump. so... dont look down on these girls cause they are at higher standards and they monthly incom are way higher then yours .. so dont waste too much money on them unless ur a ah long or just strike 1st price in 4D not long ago.
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so heres are some advice if your trying to stay away or survive the thai disco fever .. or survive the heart-pain of being dumped by your so called " lovers " . hope it will help cause it really help me alot.

1 - Be yourself , what starts in the thai disco, ends in the thai disco. Take it as a DREAM or something to pass time or keep u happy rather then mixing it with reality.
2 - Keep your mind awake. Think logic and think facts. Dont let those sweet talks and saducing eyes kill you.
3 - The human mind is a deadly weapon .. it can also kill u if u dont know how to deal with it. Thai girls are good at messing with your mind. they can lure u into buying LDs , dinners , shopping etc. without even asking and u end up loosing cause if u were to complain, YOU'RE the one who wanted to

4 - Thai girls are just like normal girls. Girls are girls , if shes meant to be yours, god bless you but if shes not meant to be with u , then get over it. No matter how good looking , rich or nice you are , ull need to depend on luck and faith once and a awhile.
5 - these are parts and parcels of life , just accept it. dont take it as regrets but lessons. you can stress all u want now and after 20-30 years later after getting married(or dont) . when ur old and satteled down..ull laugh and joke over thinking back the days u cried over a worthless thai girl and realising how stupid u were
6 - if ur married to a thai girl(rare cases) . god bless u , good luck and maintain a good relationship.

How to get over them(based on what i did and trust me. it worked 101%)

1 - get a hobby to replace your night life. like watching movies, maybe 2 or 3 ? . instead of spending 100+ dollar a night buying LD and flowers .. a few cool DVD cost only 30-40 .. it will keep your mind away from TDs and it really help u sleep

2 - Start gaming. If your into PC gaming, get urself a decent gaming PC and buy the latest games like COD4/5 or Online games like WoW or Maple(-.-) . these are highly addictive games .. if your lucky , ull get soo addicted to these games and forget all about TDs .. but for some unlucky cases > ull become a game freak/addict and end up being a gaming nerd sitting your fat ass the whole day killing mosters -,- (im not, at least for now) .. well if that helpes , then why not?

3 - if ur a alcohol addict, have some drinkink session with friends at your near-by kopitiam.. Worst cases where ur a anti-social loner who dosent have any friends.. sit with a Ah Pek and act cool with him :p . uncles are really talkative when they drink(be sure to talk to the correct ahpek especially when drinking..cause when they get drunk..world war 2 tai ji all they bring comeout and blames u for it -.-). if that helps u sleep at night..why not? (im not a drinker but i know)

4 - instead of getting GTed.. why not u GT them instead ? be a player and bulletfly around like nobody business. let your little bro speak < said enough

5 - be more socialized . do fun stuffs with friends like going to sentosa to chui char bor.play pool or movies... going into old changi hospital at night to look for a life time partner or Lim chu Kang's cemetary to look for your ex..

6 - if nothing really seem to help you or ur soo depressed that u think of sucide.. then u really need profesional help liao -,- who knows?

If your reading this.. thanks alot for reading my long boring post. if it helped u. then ive done my job .. if it dosent , then nobody cant and u can spend the rest of your life telling stories here in this forum. there are things u may agree and may not agree with.. but all those listed up there are based on my expriences and what iv gone true.. are the SAME as you guys. Please PM me if you think it helped or gives u some hope and brighten up your life after reading this so that i can feel proud of my self Tongue

kidding.. yea.. i spend 2 hours thinking and typing this.. while doing this , i had headache and i cant type nor see properly now .. so sorry if i typed funny during the endings :/ . it may not be the best advice but at least i put in some afford .. so hope u guys appreciate this. take care

-danny