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Offline TDboii

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Marrying a Thai - Sin Sod
« on: June 17, 2015, 03:15:27 AM »
Hi forum bros,

Curious regarding how Singaporeans feel when the topic of Sin Sod comes into question when you are planning to marry your thai girlfriend? FYI, Sin Sod is the dowry that you pay to the bride's family in exchange for their daughter's hand. I understand that most Westerners (i.e. Americans/Europeans) feel quite offended when they learn of this dowry thing. They would feel like they need to pay in order to marry their girlfriends. However, the Thais take a great deal out of this and generally will expect a fair amount of money and gold during the wedding ceremony.

Thus I wonder if there are any local bros who have gone through this and would like you to share some advice on what to take note of and the amount of Sin Sod typically required for a marriage of this sort. I do have plans to marry my current girlfriend who is from Thailand(Chiang Rai) and hence will like to prepare myself for this.

Thanks and I wait for any kind replies.
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Re: Marrying a Thai - Sin Sod
« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2015, 03:24:04 AM »
The best source of information would be your gf. Have you asked her? You can also get her to sound out your future parents-in-law. If they are undersanding, they won't ask for the sky. The sin sod can be quite a sensitive topic for some people because it shows the status of the guy and the amount of face given to the gal and her family. The higher it is, the more face the family gets. It can be in the former of cash, gold, jewellery, house etc.
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Re: Marrying a Thai - Sin Sod
« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2015, 03:27:14 AM »
Forgot to add that the sin sod must commensurate with your gal's status e.g. upper class, middle class... Otherwise people will start to gossip and everyone loses face. I assume that she is single and has not married before. :)
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Re: Marrying a Thai - Sin Sod
« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2015, 03:29:45 AM »
Hi forum bros,

Curious regarding how Singaporeans feel when the topic of Sin Sod comes into question when you are planning to marry your thai girlfriend? FYI, Sin Sod is the dowry that you pay to the bride's family in exchange for their daughter's hand. I understand that most Westerners (i.e. Americans/Europeans) feel quite offended when they learn of this dowry thing. They would feel like they need to pay in order to marry their girlfriends. However, the Thais take a great deal out of this and generally will expect a fair amount of money and gold during the wedding ceremony.

Thus I wonder if there are any local bros who have gone through this and would like you to share some advice on what to take note of and the amount of Sin Sod typically required for a marriage of this sort. I do have plans to marry my current girlfriend who is from Thailand(Chiang Rai) and hence will like to prepare myself for this.

Thanks and I wait for any kind replies.

u can search this forum for some feedback on sin sod. I think there was some mention in the past.

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Re: Marrying a Thai - Sin Sod
« Reply #4 on: June 17, 2015, 08:23:53 PM »
Gf I think mid so. Quote me 1m baht. I ask for discount she say around 700k baht.

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Re: Marrying a Thai - Sin Sod
« Reply #5 on: June 17, 2015, 10:07:06 PM »
Gf I think mid so. Quote me 1m baht. I ask for discount she say around 700k baht.

So ex 30ksgd

That's alot of money the girl wants. However if your finances permit and the girl deserves it then go ahead. I'm more comfortable with a sum that's between 200-300k. My girlfriend is a Uni grad and her family is financially alright so I guess that's a reasonable sum to propose.
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Re: Marrying a Thai - Sin Sod
« Reply #6 on: June 17, 2015, 10:22:27 PM »
It depends. Some families have a sin sot for 'face' only... i.e., the money will "boomerang" back to you after the big show. Others, it is their chance to milk the foreigner. How your girl and her family broach this subject is very telling on their intentions. If they really need it, insist that you get final say on how the money is spent. Ask for bills/invoices. *(BTW, people in this forum need to know that there is 30 Thai Baht universal healthcare system in Thailand... so no one will really die unlike what these girls claim)

Whatever you do, NEVER, EVER buy property in her name. You cannot buy land as a foreigner. So stick with a condo or just rent. If you need a lawyer (on YOUR side) in Thailand, PM me.


Yes if the family wants to do it for face only then I guess this has to be planned in advance and that they will actually return me the money after the wedding ceremony. I will definitely not be held to extortion by the family and will negotiate to the best of my capability.

As for buying property in Thailand, that's not on my agenda now as I believe it is much better to continue pursuing my career in Singapore at the moment. Thanks bro@lofty for the advice and I will seek your help when necessary.
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Re: Marrying a Thai - Sin Sod
« Reply #7 on: June 17, 2015, 10:25:08 PM »
The best source of information would be your gf. Have you asked her? You can also get her to sound out your future parents-in-law. If they are undersanding, they won't ask for the sky. The sin sod can be quite a sensitive topic for some people because it shows the status of the guy and the amount of face given to the gal and her family. The higher it is, the more face the family gets. It can be in the former of cash, gold, jewellery, house etc.

Yes I will talk to my girlfriend regarding this matter but I won't be looking to break the bank to marry her.
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