Game Over

This story serves to let the brothers here, not to repeat the mistakes I've made. Skeptics call me stupid, some call it, growing up. Whatever it is, it was a good and useful experience. We shall call her M.

It dates back to late September when I went down to a TD at JB. It was to celebrate my friend, D's, birthday. D's girlfriend introduced M to me. That night, we called it love at first sight. I like her bubbly nature, her looks. We hugged, held hands. I gave her my cardigan as I see she was feeling cold. Before I returned to Sg, she asked for my number. I wrote on a serviette and left. I didn't took down her number as I thought she was just going to be another coyote. I am just another customer.

The next few times we met, I stayed over at a nearby hotel, we had few good nights together. During Oct, she ran into problems with ICA and she returned back to JB, and evetually went back to Thailand. For the things I've been through with her at immigration, she was touched and when we were at JB's custom, we were in a room sitting down waiting for the officer.

She took my hand and said: I'll never forget you. I will love you forever.

That came out from her, warmed my entire heart. I called it madly in love, skeptics call me stupid.

I promised to find her at Thailand in November. I scrimped & save everyday, drinking plain water & eating bread for the month of October, so I can have enough money to fly over and spend a week over there. I don't earn much you see.

November, I flew over there and spent a week. She brought me to many places and met many of her friend. I even managed to know one of the her good friend is the main singer of Calorie Blah Blah. She cooked for me, took extremely good care of me. I took her son & her out. Outsiders thought I was the biological dad and even mentioned that her son look like me. We were like a happy family. During a week stay there, we already plans to settle down &get married in Thailand in a few months time. But good times don't last...

It was a happy first few days till the mid week. Problems started to arise and we broke up for a day. I asked for it. But eventually I took her back. I didn't wanted to lose a great girl. During the quarrel, she deleted her FB account and refused to reinstate it no matter how I told her to.

After I returned to Sg, a week later, I received a call from M when I was sleeping. She said: Baby, I have something to tell you. I am returning back to JB to work. I need the money to pay off my car, house and son.
By the time she informed me about this, she was already on the way reaching Malaysia. I didn't like this idea, I suck thumb and waited for her to reach JB.

All things were normal, we talked over the phone daily like Day 1 until end of November when she started to change. She started to blow hot and cold towards me. She started to ignore me as and when she likes it. Quarrels were more heated and often more than ever. I wanted to keep the relationship, thus, I kept giving in to her. Each time she didn't hit her target, I made sure I hit her target so her pay won't get deducted.

She then asked me to reinstate her facebook account for her so she can add her customers. She reinstated her account for a customer. At that point of time, who was the person who had the charm to ask her to reinstate her account, I don't know. I logged into her account and I couldn't find any Chinese fellows except for me and my friends.

I understand customers took her out, give her gifts. I only knew when I read her sms when the customer sms and I happened to see the msg. Only then she'll explain to me. M, her figure is not really well endowed, but when her high level of confidence oozes out of her, we men, I assure you, we like it. Many customers, mostly, Singaporeans is hitting up on her and I jolly well know most of her customers likes her. Never did I thought that no Singaporeans managed to win her heart over from me, but a f**kface Malaysian.

There was a night she was drunk & we were banging. Out of the blue, she mentioned that she had bedded many customers. The next morning I confronted her about what she said and she explained that she was drunk and didn't knew what she was blurting out. I kept quiet. That caused me to be more possessive of her and she didn't like it.

Bonus came and I bought her a iPhone 4S. She wanted it. I made sure she gets what she wants. This is a death checkmate move I made. This gave her a wide range of ways to cheat on me with other customers using facebook, whatsapp and all other apps. Slowly, I realised she changed her email and facebook and other account's password. Something is wrong and I swiftly changed my account passwords too. I kept quiet about it. I didn't wanted to let her know I've been checking up on her secretly.

2 days before X'mas, she ignored me for no apparent reason. We were supposed to meet on the 24th however she didn't wanted to reply my sms or calls. 24th, I reached JB in the morning, thinking i can take her out for brunch. I waited for her for hours, she didn't wanted to reply me at all. Cut the story short, I told her I wanted a break up in the afternoon but I was softhearted again, I asked for a patch and we got back swiftly.

Never did I knew that D, knew from his gf, L, that M, has a new boyfriend. I was kept in the dark for some time. Someone has been banging my girlfriend and I've been made a cuckold and I am the last person in the TD to know. Many coyotes told me they have seen something going on in there but refuses to tell me what they've seen. They only told me, M, is not a good girl as I thought she was to be. They advised me to leave her.

We had our last date after X'mas. We had a quarrel and the next day she dumped me. I tried many ways to salvage but I couldn't. Friends came up to me & told me of their experiences in the said TD & told me what they saw. I confronted her many times about it but she didn't bother to explain and till this day, she continued to leave me hanging. She removed me from fb, whatsapp and everything that can contact her.

I went down many times to look for her but she always ignore me. The last time I went to look for her. She wasn't working. Her colleagues told me that a customer booked her for a night, 800RM. And the night before that, she didn't return home too. The colleague told me there was once after we broke up, she saw M going home at 6pm wearing her working clothes. Which means she didn't return home after working.

When I heard that she was booked for a night, my heart sank. She actually allowed a customer to book her for a night. It could be a case of words against words, but the coyote definitely didn't had a good reason to lie to me. I gave her some benefits which she was looking for and it was like a trade. I helped her look for someone she has been looking for months, she gives me the information I want.

I lost my mind after that. I returned to Sg and FB msg all of her friends which I had. I told them abt her job, that she dumped me for another man and she allowed to be book for a night. I also told them to help her find a job in Thailand so she wouldn't need to return to work as coyote anymore.

A night before M returns to Thailand, she called me. She was crying angrily, she told me she wasn't feeling well the night when I went down to look for her. I retorted back that she ignored me all the way after we broke up. No calls and sms is being replied. How am I going to verify any truth with her? The next day, we were ok, she even told me she is going back to Thailand and we conversed a few times. She wanted to pass me a few hundred bucks, SGD, however I refused to take from her.

Upon reaching home, her friends, instead of helping her out, told her about the fb messages and that was the last straw. She was effing angry at me and she issued the ultimo to me. We are never going to be friends again. I don't know what her friends told her and what they think of me, I just knew when she was back at Thailand, M & her friends turn their back on me.

Shortly, through a friend's fb, I saw that she had another new fb account. The new bf followed her back to Phuket and they had a great time. She took him to places we've been to, ate stuffs I've ate before, take picture also take the same item. He is just reliving what I've been through at Phuket with her.

That man, who is a Malaysian, owns a car and is richer than me. He can do something which I never can master in my life. Cooking. He even made a bento for her when she returned from Thailand recently. From the pictures, I can see that they're really loving and had a good time with him at Phuket. If I'm not wrong, she spent the CNY at his place, judging form the background of the photos and tagging of the location in fb.

Everyday I will sms her, or give a call hoping she will reply. But she never did. I told her my birthday, my greatest present would be a simple friendship from her. My birthday was on the eve of CNY, nothing came from her. Indeed, we were no longer friends.

Actually, I didn't knew her friends do not know that she was coming to JB to work as a coyote. If I had knew, I wouldn't sent those messages & tell them of what's happening to her after we broke up.

Coming April, i have a pair of tickets to Phuket. Now, I can't go anymore. I don't know have a place to stay, don't have someone to travel with. My Thai is not eloquent enough. I only know a few simple words.

It isn't being a boyfriend of a hot coyote. Every man is lusting after her. How many times M told me this man, that man wants to bang her that night and offered high prices.

Guys, there's many learning points. I hope through my personal experience, you all can pick up the mistakes I've made and never to repeat them. I once thought I could be the lucky one, be the envy of many men, but I was wrong. In the end, I am just another customer.

What made me so stupid to hold onto her so tightly. Since the 1st time I saw her, I fell for her looks first then her personality. She is someone who really knows how to take care of a man very well. I love being take care of her by. I still can remember the things she did for me. Twice she missed her period, she told me that if ever she is expecting with my child, she is going to keep it and we will raise her son and my child up together. We were committed in realising our plans together. But too bad in the end, nothing worked out and she chose to give this fairytale up.

My health and account balance was dealt with a heavy blow, but nevertheless I never regretted having her as a girlfriend. I'll never wish her and the f**kface happiness. All I hope for her is she can find a good job in Phuket to raise her son well and marry off a good man. Be it that Mofo who came between us and broke us up or her real Mr Right.

I don't know if one day she comes back to me and asks if I can take her back, what would my answer be. My heart would definitely say yes and tell me forgive & forget. But my brain will tell me that she can leave me for another man, the very next day. She has done that to me and she can always cheat on me with another man. And I can always find a better lady.

I really hope God don't deal me with this dilemma one day because I really don't know what decision I will make....